Tuesday, August 26, 2014

The Honeymoon is over.

The first time I ever went to Hawaii was on our honeymoon. We left the morning after our wedding, hungover and exhausted, me with a head full of big hair from my fancy up-do the night before. We woke up too late for showers and had to run to catch our plane. A six am departure after the biggest night of our lives seems like bad planning now, but what did we know? We were just kids, not yet skilled in the fine art of travel and leisure.

We’ve come a long way, baby.

after yoga and meditation under our favorite tree...

Looking back, I feel like I hardly know those two crazy kids who committed their lives to one another. And I can’t help but think that they hardly knew each other! It’s not like we had an arranged marriage or anything - we’d been friends for years and lived together before the wedding - but we still had a lot to figure out.

We still do, of course, but we have a connection now that we didn’t used to have. I guess that’s what fourteen years of marriage gets you…

In honor of our anniversary, we were reminiscing about our wedding and honeymoon the other night. We both admitted how uncomfortable it all was. Not just the cookie cutter wedding (perfect but so not what we’d do today) but even the honeymoon (which is really funny considering that we take the exact same trip any chance we get). It’s not that any of it was bad; it just wasn’t really us.

But I guess we weren’t quite us yet either. Thank goodness we’ve found a way to grow into ourselves without growing apart from each other. Hopefully that will continue as long as we do.

Isn’t it lucky that we get to go forward, not back? Because the more we work to know ourselves and to know each other, the better everything gets. Life, love, marriage, vacation…all of it.

Here’s to fourteen years. May the next fourteen be so great that I look back at us now and think, “You poor saps didn’t know a thing…”


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